Day dates, spontaneous trips, and last-minute “let’s grab a bite to eat” were some of my favorite ways to spend time with my partner pre-kids. Finding one-on-one time came easily since the only schedules I was combating with were mine and my husband’s. Nowadays, finding quality time as a couple with kids is usually like solving a puzzle: we’re coordinating logistics, hiring a babysitter, and spending extra money. To be real, even when there’s a chance to have some intimacy at the end of a normal day, my thoughts are often flooded with never-ending to-do lists and the mountain of clothes that has consumed my laundry room. Which is why I’m excited about a new viral dating trend called ‘choremance’ that could be an easier way for us to connect.
For busy parents, ‘choremance’ provides a two-in-one special that gets a ‘date night’ (or day) in by tackling your never-ending to-do list. Surprisingly, you may be doing this already, not realizing that it fits under the category of romance. Keep reading to find out what a ‘choremance’ is, ideas to get choremance-romance in your relationship now, and what other moms are saying about this viral dating trend.
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What is ‘choremance’?
A ‘choremance’ is exactly what it sounds like—doing chores to get some romance in a relationship. Whether it’s doing laundry together or going grocery shopping, these common, everyday tasks are moments that promote quality time together.
This trending term is totally giving rom-com vibes, and I’m definitely here for it. Doing chores together with a romantic partner isn’t a new thing. Remember ‘The One With the East German Laundry Detergent‘. (AKA Season 1, Episode 5 of the ever-so popular sitcom, Friends)? Ross pretends that his building’s washing machine is out of order, so he and Rachel go to a laundromat together. Spoiler alert: their laundromat hang ends with a kiss.
Can doing chores together really spice up a relationship?
But does doing chores together really put some spark in a relationship? According to a relationship equity coach and founder of Tend Task, Felicia Kashevaroff, while doing chores together may be the last thing that comes to mind when trying to spice up a relationship, “It can actually make the difference between a sexy, intimate relationship and a stale, boring relationship,” she shared in a YouTube episode on the topic.
In fact, Kashevaroff added that doing chores as a duo “can be sexier than you realize.” The moments when you’re tackling tasks together can lead to deeper conversations and added benefits like boosting communication, building teamwork, and fostering appreciation. Additionally, it creates a sense of accomplishment and joy, and what she calls ‘chore play.’
‘Chore play’ is foreplay
Host of Conversations With Cam and mom-of-two, Cameron Rogers, took it to her podcast to declare that doing chores is the ultimate way to ramp up libido. “Foreplay starts in the kitchen,” says Rogers—it doesn’t start at 9 p.m. when couples get in bed. “It’s when you decide ‘Oh, I’m going to unload the dishwasher and clean up this mess, and pack our son’s lunch for camp the next day.’” Instagram user @bri_valexander agreed and commented, “We call this ChorePlay 
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And Rogers and her followers are right. According to Kashevaroff, the ‘chore play’ aspect that comes with this viral dating trend is a valid ‘how-to’ on getting steamy with your significant other. Doing chores side-by-side as a couple spices up a relationship “by blending the practical with the romantic, proving that even the most mundane tasks can bring couples together,” said Kashevaroff. And for moms who are constantly tackling the mental load, Instagram user @littlelim2 pointed out, “Foreplay is ALL day .”
Chores to do together as a couple
So, if you’re looking for chores for your ‘choremance,’ add these tasks to your to-do list ASAP, and share them with your partner. Maybe your opening and closing shift as a mom doesn’t have to be done completely alone. As Kashevaroff shared, “Couples can transform routine activities into opportunities for bonding and flirtation.” Suddenly, sorting out the pile of unmatched socks doesn’t seem so terrible if you’re doing it with someone else. As Marketing Director, Meagan McCormick shared, “Anything can be a date if you like the person.”
“Anything can be a date if you like the person.”
Who knew that a viral dating trend called ‘choremance’ was the spice parents needed in their lives? Hello, spring cleaning, we’ll just tackle you together now.
- Make dinner together
- Go to a farmer’s market
- Fold and put away laundry
- Do yard clean-up
- Garden together
- Wash the cars
- Make the beds
- Change out all the beddings
- Organize an area of the house
- Paint a room
- Do the dishes/empty the dishwasher
- Clean out the pantry or refrigerator
- Do a closet purge
- Grocery shop
- Meal prep for the week
- Pack school lunches
- Walk the dog
- Bathe the pet(s)
- Clean the windows
- Dust shelves and baseboards
Patty Schepel, Editorial Assistant
As the editorial assistant, Patty works with The Everymom’s team on pitches, creating original articles, updating existing content, photo sourcing, writing shopping product descriptions, inputting freelance articles, and more. With Patty’s passion for writing, experience as a mother of two, and expertise as a pediatric nurse, she brings a thoughtful and informative perspective to The Everymom.
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